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I’ve Learned; Be Careful What You Uncover

I’d wake up
and couldn’t stand or walk

I finally decided to

look down

and a dozen bullet holes

were found

but I was walking

this time

not too weak

to stand up

I just had to know

why when I fell

I couldn’t get up

now I know

it’s because

you are trying to kill me

metaphorically speaking,

although it feels quite literal.

Be careful of what you uncover

of what you see with your eyes

bullet holes so divine.



(copyright kerrious 2016 with all rights reserved).


I’ve Learned; Dreams

These eyes cannot unsee

what they have seen

dreams of you every night

as if you’re still in my life

instead of the usual dread I felt

I began to change my reaction

I started to think maybe you weren’t so bad

and then we started to get along.

I don’t want anything to do with you

not after everything you put me through.

The dreams remind me of dark times

and my only solace was knowing

you were in jail.

After everything you put me through

your’re a danger to society

and to me.

You made up lies to spread,

abused me and my mind

all I did was do my best

to leave you forever.

But now you haunt my dreams

turn them into nightmares

except I have moved on

and you don’t bother me

I thought you had a message for me

but it was the other way around.

I say….

Goodbye, forever,

stay out of my dreams

and quit haunting me.


(copyright Kerrious 2015 with all rights reserved).

I’ve Learned Life Will Give You Warnings

One of the things I have noticed lately about my life is that occasionally I will be given warning signs into whether a decision I made or am going to make is either a good choice or a bad choice for me. There are many things in life that can distract you from your path or let you know that it will be a mistake if you choose to do something you’ve been warned against. Sometimes the messages are clear and other times they need a little interpretation. Sometimes I get the message confused and do not realize it until after I already made the wrong decision and then see that I missed out on a great opportunity to listen to those messages and take heed. I don’t believe it is so much a wrong decision as maybe just a distraction from my true path in life. There are many distractions out there and many instances where our old patterns can take hold and take us places we never thought we’d be in again. I believe if we listen to these warnings and get the message clearly, then we can steer clear from the distraction and heed the warning in order to stay straight on our path. Either way there will be something to learn from it. Sometimes after making a mistake we can forge into a dark night of the soul and come out stronger with everything we have learned and releasing the pain that accompanies it.

For example, I usually get these messages in dreams. Other times, I will have a gut feeling. Sometimes, I won’t even be looking for a message but then will realize it later. Sometimes I take heed and sometimes I don’t and it is too late. Sometimes I know better but continue to do things anyway because I think that I can handle it but in the long run it is detrimental. That is why it is so important to listen to these warnings and analyze them correctly. Then again, sometimes what we think are bad decisions (due to out of date belief systems) can actually open us up to things we’d never learn otherwise. Sometimes what we think are bad decisions can turn out to be the best thing that has happened to you, momentarily. It is important to be patient with yourself and learn how exactly it works for you. In a world where everything is an illusion, in a sense, it can be difficult, but it is possible. That is why I think dreams are so helpful, we are not overwhelmed by the external illusion anymore, so our internal system lets us know, what is it we are not seeing.

Through dreams, usually because something happens in life to trigger the warning sign but I am not aware of it yet, so it manifests through dreams. These dreams are usually vivid and upon waking I know that it wasn’t just a regular mixed up dream of some sort. The message comes with an immense feeling also. That is how I tell the difference. There will be a feeling that accompanies the vivid detail and strange dream. I’ve noticed that these dreams can happen six months ahead of time or even the day before. These dreams can also contain symbolic information that will need interpreted correctly. These have become so common that I cannot deny they exist. Sometimes I will go into denial mode in order to not accept the warning and continue in my delusion. In the end, I just end up hurt and proven wrong. Sometimes this will happen before I even have a warning in waking life. So I began to question the patterns. Truth is, there is no specific way it happens. IT is completely random, i thought. I began to wonder why this happens and if it happens to everyone. I believe mine happen when there is nothing that is happening in my life to warn me. For instance, if a person I am involved with is so good at lying that they even believe it themselves, I would not be able to pick up on that. So, instead, I get warnings through dreams. That is why it is so easy to ignore because I think there is no reason to worry, but it is just because it is so hard to pick up on the thing that will hurt me and derail me from my path in real life. There are no clues for me to pick up on, therefore I can’t make the correct decision and do what’s best for me because I am not aware of it. Hence, the dream warnings.

There are many other ways that warnings come into our lives. It may be an immense feeling like something bad will happen. Not to be confused with anxiety or irrational fear. As humans living in the universe, we can pick up on universal fears through dreams also. These will usually be dreams where natural disasters, fires, plane crashes, or volcano eruptions happen. These are two separate things and there are differences between the two in which I have described. But this is a knowing that something will happen and then it does, not an irrational fear. We must also take responsibility for our decisions and realize that if we keep making the same mistakes we are creating self-fulfilling prophecies and it is no coincidence you thought something was going to happen and then it did. Because you created it through your decisions, by making the same mistakes by not heeding the warnings. Throughout our lives, we accumulate years of experiences that tell us these things. It isn’t some kind of psychic ability or trick. It may stem from survival instincts. Nonetheless, it is an ability that can be honed in on and finely tuned.

I then began to realize I have misinterpreted plenty of warnings in the past and wish I hadn’t. I now know that this is a human ability and a gift. When I look back and see how lucky I was to be given such messages in the first place, I feel like a fool that I pushed ahead anyway. This comes from the desire to be in control. To think we have the tools already to make the right decisions for ourselves, when really our brain processes more than we are aware of consciously. We do know what is best for ourselves deep down. When the warnings come before the actual event happens and before you even know the person or situation, that is when it can get interesting. Because you know you did not have any of that information in the first place, let alone dream about it. But when it comes into fruition, it builds a trusting foundation for future warnings. To know you should pay attention and maybe, just maybe, make the best decision for your path in the future.

Overall, I’ve learned life will give you warnings that will allow you to avoid distractions from what’s important in your life now. I’ve learned these warnings manifest in several ways, mainly dreams. I’ve learned to pay attention to these warnings but not to take them out of proportion. I’ve learned to be patient with myself and sometimes I will not understand the message until after it is all said and done. I’ve learned this happens when we do not have the necessary means in the outer world to understand the decisions we are making due to people lying or when it is not obvious we will be hurt or distracted from this decision. I’ve learned the process from beginning to end. From the first warning clear through the dark night of the soul. I’ve learned this process is getting shorter for me and I am understanding better each time. Although we can get caught up in distractions, we can work through them. It’s not a reason to be discouraged or give up. It’s recognizing what it is that allows us to keep making the wrong decisions for ourselves in the first place and then working on it and changing it for the future. Sometimes, we have to work really hard in the present to have a better outcome in the future.


Now I know I did interpret them correctly and tried to warn people. in the moment I understand everything but then other’s people influence create us to doubt ourselves. false prophets steal our dreams and even if they know the future they wouldn’t warn anyone like I would. this is more about other people that got their messages confused at this point. also, it wasn’t universal fears but it was others trying to kill me in my dreams because they were jealous or wanted what I have. It’s a bit of a mixture. I know that now.

(Copyright Kerrious 2014 with all rights reserved).



I’ve Learned It’s Okay to Lose Yourself


Recently, and throughout my journey, I have questioned what it means to be lost? Was I lost? It was something I never asked myself until I found out I was. This was all reflected back to me through another person. In which, I could not deny it. I have wondered if it is really a bad thing, as much as it sounds, or if it could possibly be a good thing also. I learned that we can get lost very easily. I’ve learned it is so subtle that you may not realize it until you have some hard-to-define experience in which you know was weird, but you just quite can’t put your finger on it. It may feel as though time stopped or slowed down so much, and even experience deja vu. You may constantly see or hear the same messages but not understand why or how to decipher the meanings. Especially through dreams, not only your dreams, but other’s as well. It’s easy to take these subtle experiences and make them out to be bigger than what they actually are also. It’s important to not take these things and make them out to be something special, hence take them out of context. It’s easy to not recognize what they are really trying to show you at the time. Because most of the time you aren’t even aware of the problem or question it is trying to answer in the first place.  Because when you are lost, you most likely won’t even know you are lost.

Not everyone will have their lives unfold so naturally. Some people go from point A to point B with no trouble at all. But others will need extra experiences and circumstances to unfold in order to accomplish their paths. Some people play by the rules and others have to learn for themselves. To always question things especially if what they are being told doesn’t seem right. And sometimes what they were told from the beginning was right in the end, and other times, they prove themselves right in the end. There is never really a 100 percent accuracy rate in life. I admit to being curious and curiosity plays a huge role as a characteristic that these people exhibit. But what if the curiosity was brought upon by an external event that made them question things? Instead of being innately curious. Maybe it was one external event that triggered all the curiosity they could muster out of themselves? It could also possibly be an internal event but one as to where it was unmistakably something to pay attention to.

So, it’s those little things that can happen internally or externally that let you know where you are on your path in life. It’s how you interpret them that makes the difference. Sometimes, they will tell us we are lost and other times they will tell us we are on the right path. If you are one that has discovered you are on or have already taken the long road, it may seem as if you are not doing anything right, but that is why these subtle hints are so important. You will develop a system and learn to trust that system once you are able to distinguish if the subtle hints you are getting are really what they are. This all leads to noticing if you are lost or not. This may seem like something that would be pretty obvious and you would think you would know if you are lost but sometimes we are so involved in our lives at the time that we think we are doing what is best when really we are missing the big picture. This is where those subtle hints become important and developing a way to manage them is also important. It takes work as an individual and not everyone will have the same way.

I’ve learned that I would continuously lose myself in other people or places. Some call this sensitivity or empathy, but what I found is that it was an escape or distraction. This finding came about through another person who reflected back to me all my problems I was not seeing. Have you ever met someone and when you were around them, it seemed like your brain triggered off every memory you’d ever thought you’d forgotten. Or you wondered why you would be thinking something that happened so long ago around this person? You begin to notice that the memories do not dissipate. They go almost on auto pilot? You are around people everyday, all day but yet for some reason this only happens around this particular person? It is because they are reflecting what you need to heal in yourself. These people have the same emotional traumas as you and are only reflecting them back to you. This would be a blessing and good luck on your part but most people would run from it instead of embrace it. What they find is not something they want to face, so they chalk it off to being nothing more than a bad memory. If you can see why this person makes you feel this way,  you will see that this person can also teach you something and they may not even be aware of it. But they will be in the future, because you are doing the same thing for them, they just may not realize it right away. It’s important to allow space and time for each person going through this to go through it on their own terms and own way.

This is where losing yourself can be harmful and detrimental to growth. If you lose yourself in this person while either one of you or both of you are going through these past traumas again in order to heal, then  you will not have the chance to heal.  You will become so focused on the other person and what it all means, that you are missing the purpose of this exchange in the first place. The exchange is for you. This person doesn’t need your help, you need to help yourself. But if you keep focusing on them and losing yourself, you will be distracting yourself. That is why, in most cases, these people do not stay in your life for long periods of time.  When you learn to not lose yourself, you can learn to let go when the time comes and it will not be so painful. Then I began to question how do I not lose myself? How is this done? And if I do, how do I remember that I did? How do I create the balance?

Once you learn how to not lose yourself, you can learn to lose yourself in a healthy way. After wondering if losing yourself was a bad thing, and being hard on myself for doing so, so many times, I had this assumption it must just be a bad thing overall. But then I learned that it is okay to lose yourself. But in order to do so you must first learn to be able to pull yourself back out immediately. Losing yourself in another can be a very real experience and that is why I think I had always been so hard on myself when it came to this topic. I just didn’t know how to pull myself back out. I didn’t know it was possible to have a good balance. I would just go so long, being one with someone and before I knew it, I wasn’t the same person anymore, because I had lost myself a long time ago, through them and in them. I would blame them when really I should have been taking the responsibility for my own actions and realizing that things didn’t have to end the way they did or I did not have to always let go in order to find myself again. I’ve learned it’s okay to lose yourself, as long as you don’t get lost. As long as you are aware of what you are doing and can immediately snap out of it if need be. Sometimes, I think it is best to have everyone involved on the same page. But as long as you can easily take that back alley back onto the main road.

I think a big part of the gaping hole we feel that is missing at times after leaving the presence of people we love, or places that we love, come from the action of us losing ourselves in those people and places. It isn’t a mystery to know that when we feel that way, there is something we are not facing in ourselves. We need to pin point what the problem is and then work on it. The answers most likely lie in the memories that resurfaced and emotions we felt at that time. There are numerous ways to know what it is trying to tell us when we feel this way. We need to learn it’s okay to lose ourselves but to instantly recognize that it can be a problem and somehow develop methods on how to snap back to reality and into our bodies again. We all need to express ourselves and connect with people who reflect back to us what we need the most. These people are the main subtle hints we get in life. Recognize them, learn from them, and know that they may be short lived connections. And they will continue to surface in life until you have healed.

When you are lost, you will feel like all is well, but if you stop to think about it, you couldn’t answer what it is that you even like to do. It’s always what someone else wants to do. We may come across a situation that I just discussed in life and instead of facing it head on, we tend to focus on others even more and this can become the beginning of losing yourself. Soon, you’ll be so focused on everyone else and thinking you are helping, and before you know it, you won’t even know what it is that interests you anymore.

I’ve learned losing yourself in experiences, whether it be people or places, can be a beautiful and profound experience and something everyone should do. But if you are not equipped to do so, you may not know that you lost yourself and therefore, finding yourself will be harder. The longer you let it go, the longer it will take to find yourself again. Overall, I’ve learned that it is okay to lose yourself. That you should not feel guilty for doing so. This guilt stems from thinking you invested emotion and time on a person while losing everything you were about in the first place. Or you invest in the happiness you felt at a particular place and forget that is was temporary. You will go through stages where you blame that person instead of looking at yourself. You will feel like you wish you could be at that place forever. You will think they took something of yours or you left something behind. You will not understand until you have searched for yourself again. And the sooner, the better.

And sometimes, just sometimes, while getting lost, you may also find yourself.

(Copyright Kerrious 2014 with all rights reserved).


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